When’s The Last Time YOU & Your Partner Did Something Romantic?

Can you even remember?

This past Valentine’s Day my husband and I went to a cooking class in the middle of the day. Yup, noon! (Super romantic ūüėČ ) The instructor¬†asked us that question: When’s the last time you and your partner did something romantic?

I couldn’t think of an answer.¬†Does this count?¬†

I guess it totally depends on how¬†you define “romantic.” Meaning the answer could be different between each partner. Let’s see what Merriam-Webster has to say! Shall we?¬†

  1. 1a(1):  a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure, or the supernatural (2):  a prose narrative treating imaginary characters involved in events remote in time or place and usually heroic, adventurous, or mysterious (3):  a love story especially in the form of a novelb:  a class of such literature

  2. 2:  something (such as an extravagant story or account) that lacks basis in fact

  3. 3:  an emotional attraction or aura belonging to an especially heroic era, adventure, or activity

WHAT THE HECK?!! A “medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure?” Who has time for that?! PUKE!

To me, being romantic means setting aside time to focus on and/or woo our partner. To set a mood, maybe listen to nice music, drink wine, give the person special attention to entice them to want to be intimate. Am I right?

Phew! I found another definition from our pals Merriam and Webster. “To romance” ALSO means to “try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts or flattery.”¬† Well, at least that’s closer to what I thought it meant!

For some reason that question did a number on me. My husband and I have a good relationship, or so I thought. We support each other, we have fun together, but I couldn’t¬†remember actually doing something “romantic” with him. How do people find the time? Am I alone in this? It felt like it.

(I mean … granted… I had been out of town for a month or so, but even before that, did we do something romantic together? Christmas is romantic, kinda? Right? I struggled to come up with an answer! Also, what was Steve going to say??? )

As people went around the room sharing their answers I began to feel more alone. In the room, mostly couples, everyone seemed to actually put aside time to focus specifically on their partner in an effort to be romantic. Some had just got back from traveling in Paris. Others talked about dinners they’d prepared together in the past. The pressure was building!

Then, it was my husband Steve’s turn. He talked about this time we went out to Simmzy’s (a casual American food place with lots of beer on tap) and then went for a walk along Manhattan Beach¬†afterward.

What?!! That was another LUNCH (Which I don’t seem to associate with romance) And, I think he made that last part up! I mean, we probably went for a short walk back to the car! Maybe we went to the end of the pier, first, but how is that romantic? Did we even take a selfie? I think we did… I don’t think selfies are romantic. Are they? I remember feeling like we were in a rush because we had other stuff to do. I think he had work later.

Again… people have different definitions of romance.

Then my turn came up, and I mentioned that we must have done something kinda romantic at some point over Christmas, but honestly I couldn’t remember.

Here’s the point of this story. I love my husband. He is an amazing person and we have fun together every day! But, I think this question and my lack of a decent answer was telling in itself.

In this fast paced worldРI need to slow down and take time to make him feel special and vice-versa. I need to learn what he thinks is romantic and vice-versa. We took premarital counseling. Which I highly recommend, but have we actually applied what we learned?

This class was a total reality check! (I also learned how to make Coq au Vin Blanc and chocolate custard.) Thanks #HipCooksLA

Also, I believe we should show our partner that we love them every day! Thanks to the book “The Five Love Languages!” But, though similar, love and romance have slightly different meanings and I think we all deserve to be “romanced” a little more.

Or, it could be because THIS is my husband’s definition of Valentine’s Day. ūüôā

 

PHOTO ALBUM: Thanks to Vivian from HipCooks LA.

Holy “Girl Power” At The Grammys!

Adele and Beyonce.

When people think about the 2017 Grammy’s those are the two who will be remembered and… they just happen to be women.

I was in tears on my couch last night watching Adele’s acceptance speech(es.) First, for “Record of the Year” and second, “Album of the Year.” In both cases she gushed over her love for Beyonce, her talent and how she’s used her music to empower others over the past year.

During Adele’s acceptance speech for best album she said ‚Äúmy life is Beyonce, and the album to me, the ‚ÄėLemonade‚Äô album, Beyonce, was so monumental, and so well thought out. And so beautiful and soul bearing and we all got to see another side of you that you don‚Äôt always let us see, and we appreciate that. And all us artists adore you. You are our light. And the way that you make me and my friends feel, the way you make my black friends feel is empowering, and you make them stand up for themselves. And I love you. I always have. And I always will.‚Ä̬†

Beyonce was seen mouthing “Thank you. I love you.” to Adele afterwards.

While she received the grammy for Best Urban Contemporary album she said: “It‚Äôs important to me to show images to my children that reflect their beauty so they can grow up in a world where they look in the mirror, first through their own families, as well as the news, the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the White House, and the Grammys, and see themselves.‚ÄĚ

The respect and open support these two women showed for each others was so lovely. Total BAMFs!

Also, I love them and want to be their best friend.

Watch Adele’s speech and the raw video of Beyonce’s entire reaction during the speech below.

 

 

Photo Courtesy (Getty Images).

 

10 Facts About Me

Why hello there! Thanks for stopping by!

Is my dress tooooo pink? just checking… (and yes, it’s airbrushed).

My mission with this website¬†is to empower YOU to be your best self, to keep YOU¬†informed with what’s going on in the world and ultimately to make YOU¬†smile. ‘GoBAMF’ is my mantra.

Each week I’ll share stories and videos¬†in an effort to do all of the above. Some will be personal and some will be about people who empower¬†me. My hope is that they’ll do the same for you. Recently I worked as reporter and anchor for FOX11 in Los Angeles and FOX25 in Boston.

And here’s the list! Here’s 10 Facts about me:

  1. I’m a journalist
  2. I live in Los Angeles, California
  3. I’m from the east coast, Saratoga Springs, NY
  4. Graduated from the University of Minnesota in 2008 with degrees in journalism & Spanish
  5. I have two cats (they’re amazing and they know it)
  6.  Ketchup is my favorite condiment
  7. Green is my favorite color, despite all that PINK
  8. I’m a feminist and am passionate about women’s rights
  9. I’m married to another journalist!¬†His name’s Steve Kuzj and he knows karate.
  10. I believe life is a journey, not a destination and we should strive to live in each moment¬†(Or maybe Amy Adam’s new movie Arrival just really got to me) ūüėČ

#InHerWords: Women Marching Against President-Elect Donald Trump

Across the country Thousands of people are revolting against President-Elect Donald Trump

In Philadelphia a young Olivia Garrity said “I am afraid for my friends and¬†I’m a white person and I will never know what they feel like and that’s why I’m here.”

“I think people didn’t get out to vote, ¬†they assumed Hillary would win, they assumed that there were not as much racists in this country as there¬†are. They assumed that there were not as many people who have the privilege of looking¬†past Donald Trump’s hatred and racism because¬†they thought he was a good business man.”

In New York City, Javiera an immigrant waiting for her citizenship to go through, shared why she’s marching and what she hopes it will accomplish.

 

 

Marita Dancy, 21, says she’s hopes her march will force people to listen to her concerns about President Elect Trump.

Those are the “words” of three women from different backgrounds on why they’re protesting the November 8th election. What are your thoughts? Use the hastag #InHerWords to share them with GoBAMF.